Anyone that knows me knows my two kids keep me pretty busy. They are involved in many activities such as ice hockey, baseball, swimming, dancing, figure skating, etc. While I stay very busy with them and their activities, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
What gets me are those parents that sign their kids up for these activities yet hardly show up. I don’t understand what is more important than supporting your child. Now I understand that many parents have career demands and are unable to attend some events. Those are not the parents I am referring too.
I’m talking to the dads that stayed home to watch the NBA Finals the other night instead of coming to support your child at the swim meet. I’m talking to the parent that goes and hangs out with “the boys” instead of attending your child’s dance recital. I’m talking to the parent that has time to come see their child compete but instead chooses to go home after work and watch TV.
I see these kids reactions when they see other kids with their parents at these events. I see those kids look for someone to support them. They go to other parents and adults for that attention, for that support, for that praise, simply it makes me sad.
Not sad for the kid but really sad for the parent. That parent is missing out on some of the best memories they will ever have. They are missing out on building a life long relationship with their child. They are missing out on setting an example for the next generation.
One day my children are not going to want me around as much. One day they will be totally independent. One day they will have kids of their own. And one day they will look back at their childhood and know their daddy was there for them, supporting them every step of the way.
One day I will wish they were around more and when that happens I will have memories of times we spent together. Times we hung out on ice hockey trips. Times I was at a football game watching my daughter cheer. When we got pedicures together or went to the drag races.
Yep I will have those memories but so will they.
What will your kids remember?